Rape Culture Fucking Sucks

So the battle’s over.  We won.  We won big because we’re awesome.  We’re big manly men flying invincible internet spaceships and we won against carefully stacked odds that look in their favor but really aren’t.  We raped ‘em.

No.  Wait.  We Didn’t.

You know why?  Because internet spaceships are awesome.  AND RAPE ISN’T!  It’s a simple concept but let’s face it some of us in the TL;DR crowd need pictures.  So I got Rixx to make me some.

It's hip to be square

This poster is also awesome.

By trivializing rape we act permissive towards it.  We pretend that it is not only not a crime, but is, in fact, something to be desired.  No we probably don’t all think that way, but it’s the image we put out and it encourages those who are of a mindset to do this horrible crime, and it’s a deterrent for the survivors of this crime to speak out, to get help.  We tell them it’s trivial.  It’s not a big deal.  You should harden the fuck up and deal with it.

This is wrong.  Rape is a horrible crime, it frequently exacts a lifetime toll on the victims and the victim blaming and shaming can cause even more pain.  And yes saying “We Raped Them” is victim shaming.  It says to rape victims that you are noobs.  That you are bad.  That you should have fought harder.  That you had control of your fate and could and SHOULD have done something.

We need to knock it off.  We are better than this.  We are capable of extolling our victories and coping with our defeats without hurting each other.  We may not always agree with each other but we are one community, the best community in gaming, and we can be better.  We owe it to the survivors in our midst.  We owe it to the survivors among our friends.  We should make ourselves clear to those animals among us that we do NOT tolerate, do NOT condone, and do NOT embrace anything that would comfort and console THEM.

Take it upon yourselves.  Stop using this language.  Stop using Rape as a descriptive term for success.

Gonna use this for a while

Gonna use this for a while

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Posted on May 16, 2013, in Quit with the Rape Jokes Already, Things I think I think, Things You Should Know About. Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.

  1. Agnar Volta RvB

    INB4 the white male privileged crowd saying that is just a game and you are exaggerating as they don’t see a problem at all.

    Nice of you to take a stand, not many do.

  2. Nothing to say, except “signed”.

  3. i hope you get raped.

  4. You are right of course, but the underlying cause of rape-speak is present in your very article:
    “We won big because we’re awesome. We’re big manly men”. You still equalize masculinity, “being a manly man” with success and power. The opposite of masculinity is feminity, the opposite of success is defeat. So the primitive idea “man = winner, woman = loser” is present in your unconscious mind.

    Rape-speak is only a symptom, the tip of the iceberg. If you want to make difference, the other sex-related phrases should be eliminated too as they are all inappropriate in a situation where consensual sex cannot occur (you can’t really have sex while playing a game):
    – “fuck” as a term for failure/defeat. When you say “X is fucked” upon defeat, you make X similar to women (who are “fucked” during a heterosexual intercourse)
    – “let’s get our dick wet”, “we are blue-balled” … are all terms that say “getting into action” = “getting sex as a male”
    – “my dick just grown”, “e-peen” and other terms that refers power or success in terms of manhood, masculinity, male body parts

    • I think that was entirely intentional on Corelin’s part, actually, because that language only appears in the context of describing the problem, and because it sounds deliberately exaggerated for effect (“big manly men flying invincible internet spaceships”).

      Of course, the same assertion of power over another person is implied in the phrase “non-consensual,” as well.

  5. The talk in fleet ins like schoolboys talk and being cool simply isn’t cool enough. Smashing your enemy or killing them, wipe the floor with them isn’t cool enough. You fucked them? Yeah well in the usual case both parties enjoy that. So you have to rape them? No you don’t. We all play a game and your enemy may have lost tremendously, they didn’t want to loose but they maid there own decision to fight you. In one way or the other both parties wanted the fight. No one (in RL) is going somewhere just to look if he/she gets raped.

    The language used in Eve could really use an upgrade. I’ve been in some alliances by now and there always seems to be a bunch of people who like bad language. And as a german corp those groups are particularly fast in throwing racist taunts. This stuff doesn’t belong in our game. But many of our co inhabitants of this fictional world don’t think like you or me.

  6. Look, I don’t disagree that how some people use the term is offensive and should not be tolerated. But you are referring to only one definition of the word, and not the original definition. You can’t fight individual ignorance by banning the use of certain words.

    Origin:
    1250–1300; (v.) Middle English rapen < Anglo-French raper < Latin rapere to seize, carry off by force, plunder; (noun) Middle English < Anglo-French ra ( a ) p ( e ), derivative of raper
    -to plunder (a place); despoil.
    -to seize, take, or carry off by force.

    Unfortunately, and we know this to be true, most people are not using the word and referring to these definitions, but some are. It is not the word that is the issue, it is people's ignorance of it and their lack of knowledge. It is moronic to "ban" a word when it in fact is the right term to use for what may have taken place. I agree with the above poster that what really needs working on is people's etiquette. The trash talking and overall ignorance/lack of manners is what needs fixing, a single word is not the issue.

    • Who said anything about banning. Banning would be useless and counter-productive. WE need to choose to stop using it.

      And frankly I think it’s that much worse that the other definitions combined with the common usage ones equate women with property.

      • Tommy Laughingface

        I was wondering what has been the cause of my “itchy back”.
        Something wasn’t right when I read this article.
        And I think I figured it out why after reading this anonymous comment.

        What you (Corelin) are saying in this article is to stop using the word rape altogether because it is now associated with socially incorrect behavior with the embedded inferiority of female species.
        But as the above comment say, word itself is not originally associated with this behavior and should not be banned. (and you agree banning is bad)

        For example, police report often says “the victim was assaulted” instead of rape. It is totally fine because “rape” in this case means only one thing and as you said in the article it might come with the inferiority of the female. And assault is more polite.
        This is fine.

        But when you said “let’s not use the word ‘rape’ altogether.”, it is the opposite of this.
        It is as if saying “Let’s not use the word ‘black’ in all of our communication because it is associated with African-American people and it is racism to use the word ‘black’.”

        Instead of calling someone “black” with the associated negative meaning, people started using the more polite and politically correct African-American.
        But today, when we see a black ink, we don’t imagine anything associated with African-American history.

        Instead of calling the case of “the girl was raped”, the public has invented “The girl was assaulted”.
        And in EVE, when we plunder someone’s ship, with pure force and sheer overpower and say “We raped’em! Hah!”, nobody imagine anything associated with the real world criminal activity of “assaulting a woman.”

  7. Tommy Laughingface

    The word rape is used in similar contexts in many real life situations, not just games.
    If you really want to change that phenomenon and the definition in the dictionaries (not just feminism dictionary), you need to change the way people speak in real world.

    Aside from the feasibility of such task, advocating is possible and won’t hurt.
    I just don’t see it happening soon tho, not in our life time at least.
    It is as if telling the world not to eat meat because the animals get hurt….
    You and the people who share the same view can stay away from it, but can you make the world not use the word that we use in our everyday life without notion of such bad image? I doubt it….

    Anyway, good luck with it.

    We will still translate this article as asked as a humble thanks for letting us translate your articles. :)

    • Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. I believe that we need to curb the excesses of rape culture. I don’t expect everyone to agree but we need to be talking about this and finding out just what is and isn’t necessary, not saying “boys will be boys” and shrugging it off.

  8. IMHO, with all due respect to Rixx’s creativity, I think the image of the naked woman will work against what you’re trying to do here.
    Maybe replace it with the word RAPE in a red circle with a line through it or something else entirely? Just my 2 cents.

    Good luck with your cause.

  9. What a load of bollocks

  10. Very much signed

  11. Corelin, you continue to make me admire you. Amen to this.

  12. I agree completely. It’s not just this term though, it’s all the language that’s used by the “internet tough guy” crowd. Random racial epithets that have somehow become okay, like space-jewing. Really? Are we back there again? Calling something gay to mean that it’s bad. If you want to use the word to mean happy, fine, but that’s clearly not the intent.

    As a father, I don’t want my kids to watch my screen because they’re going to be exposed to this stuff in ways I would prefer they weren’t. It’s not acceptable to use these terms casually. But what can we do except write blog posts about it. I’m surprised you got this many positive comments. But that’s encouraging. Keep it up.

  13. Just some Eve Guy

    Good for you. I hate when people use that term.

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