The Difference Between PC and Polite
Posted by Corelin
So my blog against rape culture got some hits. Here and EN24. In fact I got buried. Big time. There was a lot of support, there was a lot of trolling, there was even some constructive discussion. There was also some misunderstandings.
Sadly, “politically correct” has gone from meaning “Being sensitive to the viewpoints of others” to being “Anal-retentive to the point of interfering with actual communication”
I didn’t put out a call to the community to stop using “Rape Cage,” and by extension rape culture, to be a whining jerk. I did it because it is polite. I did it because it was decent. I did it because it is the right thing to do. I did it because it will make the game more attractive to a wider variety of people. I did it because it was good for the game. Mostly I did it for friends of mine in two groups. One of them consists of victims of rape who very reasonably WOULD NOT LIKE the term, the culture that goes with it, and a whole lot else. The other is good and decent people who use the term out of ignorance.
See… there’s a difference between decent and PC. PC would be saying “You can’t call me a capsuleer. I am a Deteis Caldari of the Merchanters background! And my Archon is not a “Capital Ship” it is a “Fleet support vessel of the Amarrian Empire!” or even “Providence is OUR space and you filthy slaves need to stay out or face the consequences.”
Decency? Hmmmm…. “We beat the shit out of them” instead of “We raped them.” Why? They consented to PvP. They may not have liked the outcome but they were a consensual party. Rape victims aren’t.* Similarly homosexual jokes, and racial/ethnic jokes aren’t used to enhance communication. They might be used to actually insult someone, or in an attempt to impress people with how cool you are. You know what? I’ll go toe to toe with mots people on racist jokes. Trust me I learned a few. However I am only going to use them when I know that the people in my audience wont mind.
Spouting off random racist/homophobic/ethnic/rape culture slurs? Let’s see what Mike thinks.
Well that went over well.
There are some things that are arguable. There are lines, there is debate on where the line is. Let me give you an illustration
My contention therefore is this. Rape has no place in the realm of decent behavior. Rape can’t even see decent behavior from where it stands. Your rape jokes aren’t funny. They are sad, derogatory and hurt the game you profess to love. There’s a simple test to see if something is decent behavior. Make your joke in a public place. Don’t hide behind the internet walls. Stand and deliver.
* Now this argument might be a bit disingenuous to some people. Especially people not familiar with EvE or with my theories in it. Some people are under the misapprehension that there is non-consensual PvP in EvE. There are circumstances where PvP is illegal WITHIN the game. That is there are places where the aggressor will be punished. However PvP is VERY NEARLY never illegal IN the game. Other thank ganking nooblets at their starting stations your account will never be punished for aggressing in PvP.