The Curse of a Good Community
So FF XIV, LotRO and EvE all have one problem in common. They have great communities. I’m not kidding. They all have great communities. And that’s a problem at times.
Tonight I was running the monotonous drudgery that is Dzemael Darkhold. I’m not sure whether it’s the worst dungeon in FF XIV (Cutter’s Cry is close and some people hate Aurum Vale just as much) but it’s not a fun dungeon. I was helping a FC mate through it, and he had only run it once so we were going to clear things thoroughly and rather deliberately. I wasn’t going to race through and I wasn’t going to skip lots of things. We got a DPS and a healer through Duty Finder and off we went. And immediately the complaints began. Now I’ll take complaints from a healer. It friggin sucks to have your queue be this dungeon, and to have a group wanting a full clear. Then our DPS started bitching. About everything. I invited him to keep talking if he wanted to wait for another 45 minute DPS queue.
By the end I was heated. I was upset at the way I and my EXTREMELY new friend had been treated by these guys. They were rude, inconsiderate, and constantly pushing for bigger pulls and faster clears even though the healer was going OOM as soon as I pulled more than one group at a time. They kvetched like my grandmother when I forget to call (which… I need to do) and were all over the place hitting targets and pulling extra mobs. It was a fiasco. The bosses went down easily, which is a bit of a surprise in DD.
What made it that much more painful is that this game has a great community. 99% of the time you’d get supportive people giving advice, then hearing what your intentions are, and why you are doing it this way, working with you instead of against you. We had one of our DPS sitting out a fight because he didn’t think we should bother with side rooms.
EvE has people who will shit up the game sometimes, and some of that is to be expected in a game, but others will take things too far. Out of game threats, homophobic slurs, asshattery that frankly demeans the community and the insulter far more than the insultee. And yes I’m making new words here. You don’t like it make you own blog.
LotRO has people that will use any excuse, bug or other opportunity to harass the large RP community, and finding people for raids can be… ugh. Also the line between casuals and elitists is SO thick it’s a lethal weapon. You can get whomped by it because someone thinks your legendaries are crap. I’ve only run into it once or twice but MY GOD is it awful.
And all of these things are made worse because the communities in these games are SO GOOD. The podcasts, blogs, news sites, vlogs, forums…. everything. It’s so good! There’s so much content generated by the community and it all helps a lot. Even divisive people add a ton through both what they generate and the spin off comments and hate that adds even more entertainment. It all adds up to a situation that when you get genuinely toxic people, people who have no interest in helping others meet their goals, who just want to do their thing or who actively seek to destroy other people’s experience.
Ok rant over. This weekend I’ll talk about getting our new guy geared up once he hits 50 on Dragoon. That’s right folks. Dead Dragoon jokes incoming!